Story 195
I spent a while at my first job out of school supporting a toxic MD. A few examples:
- I was told to get better shoes before being invited to meetings (always heels)
- countless “you look tired” comments
- went to dinner with my team and a client. Client was telling me his wife didn’t know everything he does and showing me how he uses girls hair ties as a money clip. Raised to my MD it was odd and got laughed off
- comments about what I was eating for lunch at my desk like “oh… you’re eating carbs?”
- went on maternity leave during Covid. Regarding using day care over a nanny got criticized for my apartment being too small
- was accidentally forwarded emails complaining I needed to take my baby to his 4 month check up
- told by a female manager after pressing on why I wasn’t approached to interview for a promotion when everyone else was given the opportunity that she forgot
- literally wrote emails for my MD to send and never was recognized for it
- MD created a toxic team environment that triggered an HR investigation. I can’t get into details but completely threw me under the bus to protect him. Internal investigator took comments completely out of context. Told me she wouldn’t be able to get up in the morning and look at herself if she were me
- asked to have someone look over a letter I was made to sign and pressured to sign on the spot
- was told I was lucky I was compensated that year. I spent months crying every single day about the bullying I faced by HR and the MD got off Scot free. Even implied he was only in trouble because of me
- asked to switch to new coverage and was told no because I knew how to deal with him
And countless others. The stories here let me know I’m not crazy and I’m not alone. They really gaslight you into thinking it’s just you and you’re being dramatic.