A consulting partner with an active engagement at the firm I worked for propositioned me for an affair. He fantasized about my neck. When I asked about his wife and kids, he was undeterred and said he wanted to keep them. I was being used as an object, and apparently I was supposed to feel honored by the ‘privilege’ of sleeping with him. I felt insulted and degraded. The next day he apologized—meaning he knew exactly what he’d done.