Hi – please ensure that stories don’t carry racial undertone. Generic stories about India men are unfair and will only lead to racial tension. We can write tons of stories of white men and women, including the affairs they are having while still being in seat. We can understand if there is specific story /…
Another Asia story : Whilst we perceive Asia to be conservative, it is far worse than the West. Regressive men, patriarchal mindset – it reeks. Men retort to nastiness and passive aggression to put women down. I am referring to some Indian men in Private Banking in a financial hub in Asia (outside India) They…
I worked at Goldman Sachs for many years. During that time, my team was led by a senior white male manager for whom caregiving responsibilities were invisible. Advancement and favor were routinely afforded to those who could remain in the office until he chose to leave. As a working parent required to leave at a…
Concerns aren’t incomprehensible; they are inconvenient. During ERM town-halls at Citi, employees started submitting anonymous comments about retaliation by managers who kept being promoted. The comments got uncomfortable. Eventually, anonymous questions were no longer allowed. Leadership said they ‘couldn’t help without knowing what was going on.’ The irony was lost on no one: the reason…
Decades ago, the president of a business unit abroad asked me – in front of male and female colleagues – if my pubic hair matched the color of the hair on my head. Senior male colleagues were visibly embarrassed and made a few protests were made offline. Yet nothing happened. The sick man remained president….
My path to a leading investment bank (“The Bull”) began because a former co-worker at the small financial services firm where I worked attempted to rape me in my own home. I woke to find this 6’4” man on top of me as I slept, pinning my arms to my side. My two-year-old was in…
“We must do what they fear – tell the truth, spread the truth.” Alexei Navalny I was raised with conventional wisdom from another continent: don’t confront the attacker, it’ll make it worse. For years, I believed this. One day, I realized that while there is some truth to it, it was also a disservice to…
I worked for a large international bank and during my time there I suffered a miscarriage the day before my 3 month scan was due. I notified my employer who put me on 2 weeks sick leave assuming I would be back after 2 weeks, under the pressure of working for this toxic manager who…
A consulting partner with an active engagement at the firm I worked for propositioned me for an affair. He fantasized about my neck. When I asked about his wife and kids, he was undeterred and said he wanted to keep them. I was being used as an object, and apparently I was supposed to feel…
So many instances:– When I was very junior a senior manager told me I smelled nice. At a different point said he was looking for a lover.– Another senior manager avoided me like a plague if when I told him I was there if he needed anything. I meant related to work – and thought…